Valentine’s Present to Yourself

love ourselvesNot everyone has a partner to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Even if you do, it can be of great benefit to be self-compassionate as much as you feel compassion for others. Life can be a tough road at times and it’s advantageous to take care of your needs as well as others. If we should love our neighbor as ourselves, then can’t we also love ourselves as our neighbor?

By reinforcing the positives about yourself or your life we can decide to rid the negative dragons that often surround our consciousness. Resolve to award yourself on Valentine’s Day with something that’s meaningful for you – a walk in nature, a visit with friends, a relaxing massage (or a date with your loved one)! Forgive yourself if you’ve messed up – make it up with someone. Go forward to bringing out the real you, in all its glory. Smile at people you meet; listen to music that you love and that touches your heart and soul. Buy yourself chocolates!

Valentine’s Day without a partner doesn’t have to be ‘a mope-around-day’ or night. If you have young children or nieces, nephews or grandchildren – send them a Valentine’s card, or host a Valentine’s party complete with decorating their own cupcakes and a craft table with bright colored paper, glue sticks and other decorations.

Go out with girlfriends and dance! Or see a play or movie. Visit an art gallery or museum or shop for a new pair of shoes! Get your hair styled. Or you can ignore the holiday that was invented to boost the economy and go to bed early. It’s all up to you.

You can also love your heart and eat a heart-healthy meal such as baked wild salmon with a crushed pistachio topping. Drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle on herbs before baking. Add some brown rice and steamed broccoli and a green salad with olive oil and balsamic dressing. Add fresh fruit for dessert (and some dark chocolate). Invite a friend or loved one to share your heart-healthy meal. Happy Valentine’s Day!